Embodied Couples Workshop in Brasilia

November, 2019

The Embodied Couples Workshop

An Introduction to the Exceptional Relationship Approach

Any practitioner or therapist who has worked with couples knows how challenging the work can be. In this three day introduction to Exceptional Marriage Mentoring (EMM), we will uncover what it takes to work with couples successfully. EMM is an embodied approach to relationship therapy that draws on the work of John Pierrakos and Core Energetics as well as Attachment Theory, Internal Family Systems and our own work over the course of the past 35 years. 

This workshop will open you to viewing relationship work from a transformational perspective where you will come to recognize the problems couples face are not indications of pathology. Rather, couples fall into safe patterns of relating and need guidance to bring emotional authenticity and vulnerability into their partnership. This is an evolutionary path!

In this three day workshop we will cover:


  • Four Developmental Stages of Relationship

  • Neurochemistry of Commitment

  • Control Patterns - The Avoidance Behaviors that Devitalize Relationships


  • The Shared Energy Field

  • The Principle of No First Cause

  • How History Controls the Here and Now - The 80%/20% Principle

  • Working With “Triggers”


  • The Four Levels of Interactive Consciousness

  • Metaskills - The Relationship Skills We Already Possess

  • Four Levels of Intervention - Presencing, Leading by Following, Bridging, and Catalyzing

EMM Certification Training in Embodied Relationship Work

This certification training is designed for therapists to step up and support couples on a whole new level. Imagine helping committed couples to feel more power, laugh more fully, desire each other more intensely, see each other in truth, have greater compassion for the other’s struggles, engage in vibrant and constructive conflict and bring their highest selves to the relationship and the world. This training will Help you to open new doors to your practice as you bring into your work an innovative paradigm for helping couples. 

Module One

  • Understanding the Neuroscience of Relationship

  • Identifying Couples’ Level of Consciousness - Reactive, Reflective, Mindful, Embodied

  • Identifying Couples’ Level of Individuation - From Enmeshed to Relational Integration

  • What constitutes an Exceptional Relationship

  • Fundamental Concepts of the EMM approach - Shared Energy Field, No First Cause, 80%20% Principle, Triggers, and Control Patterns, Simplify & Amplify, Childhood & Adult Needs

  • Using Embodied Techniques - Presencing, Leading by Following, Catalyzing & Bridging

Module Two

  • Emotional Layering and Full Self Expression

  • Working with Reactive Couples

  • Understanding Metaskills - the innate human skills that are underdeveloped.

  • Working with Trauma in the Context of the Relationship

  • Transference & Countertransference in Mentoring

Module Three

  • What is Exceptional Sex

  • The Four Relationships - Playmates, Work Partners, Emotional Intimates, & Sex Partners

  • Lust (Libido), Love, & Eros

  • Infidelity

  • Helping Couples Discover Their “Sexual Identity”

  • Bringing EMM into Your Practice

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Exceptional Relationship Training follows these major premises:

  1. The “Four Es” – Expressive, Embodied, Emotionally Focused and Experiential.

  2. Communication occurs on both a verbal and non-verbal level and couples need to learn to“dialogue” with the whole of their body/mind in order to create emotional resonance.

  3. Conflict engagement is the doorway to deep understanding and growth.

  4. There is a need for couples to incorporate not only mindfulness, but to embody their shared experiences.

  5. The therapist must be willing to take “leaps of faith” to encourage a broader and more flexible range of expression for each partner.

  6. That each couple creates a “shared energy field” from which both problems and breakthroughs will occur.

  7. Couples connect through here and now experiences and not only by talking about their dynamics.