What is an Exceptional Relationship? 

As two people join together, their shared life can become truly exceptional when there is also a marriage of security and adventure, individuality and intimacy, harmony and conflict, the cozy and the erotic, the powerful and the most vulnerable. Long term commitment to a life partner is for many the greatest undertaking we will ever encounter.

We have spent the last 4 decades committed to discovering how to create an exceptional marriage. We were compelled not only by a professional drive to help other couples, but by our own personal desire to create a lasting and passionate union with one another.

What we learned was that marriage invited us to embark on a journey into oftentimes uncharted territory, deep into our own psyches and souls to discover the true meaning of relationship.

  • Partners feel safe in each other’s presence

  • Partners can share their inner selves with one another

  • There is a high degree of trust

  • There is laughter & lightness

  • There’s conflict, but quick repair & learning

  • Partners can take self responsibility

  • A willingness to learn from what goes wrong

  • A desire to see each other flourish

  • Partners can admit to human realities like jealousy, competitiveness, & insecurity

  •  Partners find ways to balance independence & connection